One perfect love- Does it even exist? From the time I can remember, I dreamed of this quest that seemed would make life complete. The fairytale love story where the handsome prince would sweep me off my feet and we would live happily ever after!
I thought I had found this true love when my husband and I said our vows and our souls became one. But being human means that we are both imperfect, and quickly the fairy tale became tainted with selfishness, pride, and heartache. There was a time when our marriage was hanging by a thread-almost sold for a cheap price by lies of the enemy. But the beautiful thing about marriage is that there is always hope when God is involved!
The saving grace of our Lord mended what was broken, and what now remains is even stronger than when it first began. Nothing short of a miracle really. We will forever be grateful to be standing on the side that scathed the brokenness of failed vows- fully acknowledging that we would never have made it without grace, forgiveness, and allowing Jesus Christ to be the center of our marriage.
My definition of true love changed during the process of my wounds being healed. It was in my heartache and brokenness that I fell in love with Jesus. I depended on Him for my very breath as I fought through those many days of darkness. A place I never wish to return to- and yet the same place that helped to mold my faith into what it is today. A place that has also given me compassion towards those that lurk near the doorway of this broken path or wallow in hopelessness the enemy tries to convince them they are in.
I want to say to anyone who has lost hope in marriage- that there is one perfect love for ALL of us!! A love so real that He is said to BE LOVE! A love that will never disappoint, hurt, betray, or fall out of. A love that sent His one and only son Jesus to live a perfect life on this earth- yet die an unjust death just to give us a chance at spending eternity with Him! It is because of His perfect love that my husband and I have been able to love greater! True love was not meant to be about what we get in this life, but rather what we give.
I am thankful that our marriage has been made perfect through our imperfections because of our One True Love- Jesus!
With Love- April
Colossians 3:12-14 Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.
julie Barrett says
April-
WOW! You write so eloquently and with complete vulnerability and transparency!
Thank you! I am so elated the Lord has healed what was broken. You and I met at a concert, through mutual friend, Becky! My marriage, too, is totally different now with my husband fully coming to Christ. God bless you!
With God, ALL things are possible!
Julie B.