As I have been unexpectedly thrown into this next phase of parenting 2 middle schoolers, I can boldly say- I AM NOT READY FOR THIS!! This phase has shown up and screamed at my face that I am losing control of my babies! I am missing the days of having my kids nestled under the safe wings of my protection- when I chose play dates based on the mom’s I knew and trusted, and had reassurance that my kids were protected from pornographic content when their depth of technology didn’t reach beyond Micky Mouse Clubhouse or Looney Tunes! I could cry a river of tears over this and the world our kids are growing up in, and sometimes I do! But what this new phase of parenting is showing me most, is that now more than ever- they need some good ole “Mamas prayers!”
I have had no choice but to let my 2 older kiddos spread their wings and fly a little with this move across the country. They are in a new middle school with a blank slate of friends. It has been a challenge for them to navigate the throws of this awkward transition. To make new friendships with kids who are like minded and kindly veer away from those who are not. We have had many talks about them being the light and leaders in their schools. But when our 6th grader came home week after week telling us of the filth he was hearing and how he couldn’t get away from it, I began praying very specifically for the Lord to show him a way out!
God never ceases to amaze me as prayers are answered in ways that only He can! My son was moved into a few higher level classes and is no longer uncomfortable with the peers he is around! I fully believe that if we don’t pray in all the little details of our kids lives, it becomes easy to miss the Lord’s guidance and mistake His provision or protection as mere chance.
I am grateful their Heavenly Father is present in this new independent phase my two older kids are beginning. I am learning to trust them to listen to the Holy Spirit’s gentle nudge when they veer off the path His best for them does not entail. At the same time I am praying for forgiveness and grace to help me parent them back onto the course God has planned for their lives.
Do not be afraid to pray in all the seemingly little moments or details of your kids days!! I am discovering that the more life change or complexity we have to our story- the more opportunities we have to lift our voice to Heaven and seek the Maker of Life!! If we believe God holds the whole world in His hands, then why wouldn’t we trust Him to work out all the details of our children’s lives?! Parenting is just a whole lot easier when we know God Is On Our Side!
With Love- April
2 Timothy 2:22 So flee youthful passions and pursue righteousness, faith, love, and peace, along with those who call on the Lord from a pure heart.